Keys that open door of happy family
TEXT
: Eph. 5:25; Gen. 2:18-23
A
young man prayed earnestly to God to give him a good wife because he had the
dream of building a godly home. He was led by Holy Spirit to a girl in the
Church. After careful examination, interview and prayer, he approached her with
concept of their Pastor and they agreed to Marry each other. But their parents
didn't agree and raised lots of objection on the ground of educational,
disparity, tribal differences and selfish reasons. Because of their agreement
in consonant with the will of God. The parent later agreed and they got married
in a low key wedding celebration. Initially, there had been a lot of
challenges, but they resolve to stick together. They suffered physically,
financially and martially together. They lost two kid in infancy. They weather
the storms of life together. Today, that marriage has become a model to many
young couples in the society. It is possible due to their determination to make
a success of their marriage and they keep learning, growing and adjusting.
1. What
Is Happy Family?
2.
Meaning of keys
3.
11 keys that open a door of happy family
What Is Happy family?
A
happy family is produced when two hearts are joined in true love, and they
allow peace, love, joy, acceptance and harmony to reign supreme in their
family.
Meaning Of Keys
Its a pieces of metal shaped with incisions cut to fit the ward of a particular lock or each of several button on a panel of a device which is inserted to lock or open something. It is a system used to achieve or understand something.
11 Keys that open door of happy family
A happy family must be built upon definite pillars. If you know and live by them,
then you can have a healthy home.
1. Unconditional love for each other (Eph.
5:25)
True
love is an act of will, the willful decision to love, support and be with the
other, despite of weakness, faults, mistakes and demerits. You must show love
to spouse-time, treasure, talent. True love is not selfish.
2. Jesus must be the lord of the home (Gen.
2:18)
Happy family can only be possible if the couple are genuinely regenerated and accept
the lordship of Jesus in their home. A sinful, unsaved and wicked husband or
wife cannot build a truly healthy home. This is the foundation of marital
trouble in the world today. Why should believer marry infidel? Is it, because
of money? NO
3. Be alive to your responsibility (Eph.
5:25)
The
man and woman have different responsibility in the home. The husband must
lovingly lead, love, and provide, physically, materially, financially and
spiritual, in the home. The wife is to be obedience, submissive and support,
the husband.
4. Study and understand each other and adjust
(Amos. 3:3)
Everyman
and woman is a book, if you know how to read. A happy family will be possible
if the couple take time to study and understand the likes and dislike of each
other. Whenever mistakes and offences comes you can quickly settle them
amicably. Never pile up offences and unresolved conflicts.
5. Don't allow extended family to rule your
home (Gen. 2:24)
Don't
be a baby wife or husband. In marriage two is a team and three is a crowd. Your
extended family must not be allowed to control and dictate your marriage or
home. Parent must be only adviser and admire, they should not dictate.
6. Adjust sexually to each other (Heb.
13:4)
Pre-marital
and extra-marital sex must never be allowed in your marriage. Avoid infidelity
of any kind. Be sexually faithful to your spouse. Once you married, the only
person that should see your nakedness is your spouse. Sexual intercourse must
be practiced regularly within marriage. Husband must not abuse the wife neither
the wife use sex as instrument of punishment. Research shows that men are
stronger than women sexually. Warning
: This is a non-negotiable key to happy family.
7. Family finance
Couples
are one, money should not divide them. There must be opens and transparency in
the handling of money in the home. There must be a stable source of income from
both side. Money should be wisely spend, save and invested. Let no man go to
marriage if you don't have a tangible source of income because marriage is a
huge responsibility. They must give to family, God and needy.
8. Plan your family upbringing (Ps 127:1-2)
A
happy family is open with the key of good family planning. Couples must plan how
many children they are going to have and which they can adequately cater for.
Children must nurture in the way of God. Parents must jointly train up their
children by instructions, training, discipline and prayers. There must be one
voice, pampering your children over grave mistake will ruin and destroy them
and you.
9. Learn how to handle / solve your problems
together
Life
is not a bed of roses, problems are inevitable in marriage: Childlessness,
poverty, diseases, in-law, finance e.t.c. Know that it can be solved through
prayer, patience and total reliance on God.
10. Pray and intercede for each other (Matt.
18:19)
Couple
must pray fervently for each other and for their family on regular basis.
Happy family will be a wishful thinking at neglecting family alter. Do you have
a family alter?
11. Help and assist each other to grow
The
progress of one must be consuming passion of the other. They must uplift and
assist each other to grow and progress in life. Happy family will never compete but complement
each other.
Conclusion
It
is when you adopt, adapt, adjust and adhere to these pillars that you can
really have a healthy home that will give you peace of mind. When you are
unwilling to act by these keys, then, you are not inviting a happy family.
If you apply these keys, it shall be huge benefit to your family
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