GODLY HUSBAND AND FATHER
GEN. 18-20, EPH.5:25-31, I PETER 3:7-9
One of the greatest challenges facing every male Christian
is the issue of marriage and good job. Because a man is worried to love,
action, job and progress in life. Women find marriage much easier than men
because they are soft hearted and wired to related, associate, cooperate and
care.
“And the Lord said, it is not good that the man shall be
alone; I will made him and help meet for him” Gen.2:18-20.
God approve it that husband is the head in the home and must
be ready to take up the responsibilities of headship.
Fatherhood is a huge responsibility placed on men by God.
Are you a good husband/father. There is one thing to be a male and quite another
thing to become a good and Godly/husband and father.
KINDS OF HUSBAND TODAY
There are different and several kinds of husbands today, the
more reason homes are failed.
1. Baby – Husband
Immature, spinless and failing to be alive to responsibility
of leading the home. He lack initiative.
2. WIFE: - Husband – I Tim.5:18
He has no job and no money. He depends only on the wife to
provide. Their type always seek for the daughter of rich men to marry.
3. Money – Husband
He gives money and material things but lacks affection. He
provides for the wife but he is quite unloving and uncaring. He is workaholic.
4. Sex – husband
The only thing he knows is sex always. He beats the wife if
she refuses and is ready to divorce her. He also sleeps around with other women
and fathers many children out of wedlock
5. General – Husband
He has many wives, kids and women at his beck and call. He
rents houses for his harem wives. He only donate sperm and name. he is not
responsible to wives and children.
6. Impotent – husband
Physically, spiritually, materially, financially and
sexually impotent. He marries but cannot perform sexually, financially, or
physically. He is just a figure head and wait for other men to help.
7. Abusive – Husband
He hates the wife, beats her, curses her and speaks
negatively about her. This kinds of husband don’t receive the prayers and
blessings of their wives. In fact, they are cured by their wives and die
prematurely.
HOW TO BECOMING A GODLY HUSBAND AND FATHER TODAY
There are many males, men and husband, but good husbands/fathers
are rare. If you want to become a good husband/father is a long life process. A
healthy husband is someone who lives according to this acronym.
H- Honest, Humble and a head.
Some husbands can be dishonest, lying, unfaithful and proud.
You need to lead well at home before you can lead well in the society.
U-unselfish
Many men are selfish, self centered and cater only for
themselves. A healthy husband is unselfish and thinks about his wife and
children.
S- Surrender to God and successful
Good husband must know God, surrender absolutely to the word
of God, and become successful in your work, life and vocation. He also provides
for his home (I Tim.5:18)
B- Banker and balanced
Man is a banker provided by nature. You must handle thing in
a balanced and mature way.
A- Affectionate and approachable
A healthy husband must show love, care and concern to the
wife and children. Be lend, affectionate, approachable and sweet to your wife
N-Naked and open
Some men can be secretive and closed to their wives. Though
they live together, yet they don’t share anything and are not open to one
another.
D-Determined and Dedicated
Good husbands/fathers are determined to become better every
day. They are goal setter and goal getters.
I have not seen a woman that is not proud of a good husband.
Women always want to marry healthy and good husband. The kind of husband you
are determines the kind of wife you get or which your wife will become. Stop
complain, start work on yourself to be a healthy husband.
HOW TO DEMONSTRATE TRUE LOVE TO YOUR WIFE
Unfortunately, many men marry simply because it is the
nicest things to do, not because they believe in sanctify of marriage
institution, many marry the women they love, but they don’t love the wife they
marry,. The woman you love is perfect, imaginary, very beautiful; epitome of
love and submission, but the women they marry is opposite by the time you
started living together with the wife you love, you will soon discover that she
is not perfect and husband after all. So many men have therefore divorced their
wives in their hearts while still living with them day by day. Why? Because
they didn’t know the true meaning of love according to (Eph.5:25-31,33).
What practical ways can we demonstrate love to our wives. Just
as Christ did for the church
1. Study your wife:
Every woman is a book, if you know how to read her. Know her
and what makes her thick. Study her strength and weakness. This will help you
to relate to her accordingly.
2. Substitute for your wife
This means to take her place and to help her to become
better. It is to lovingly be there for her to be what God want her to be. Pray
for her for chains/bondage of enemy and strange spirit to be broken.
3. Sacrifice for your wife:
Sacrifice time, resources and pleasure to be with your wife
and family. Sacrifice continuously so as to gain her love, confidence and
trust. A wife was mentally imbalanced for 17yrs. Yet her husband took care of
her and today, she is okay and back to his house. Who can do that today as a
believer?
4. Suffer for your wife:
What have you suffered to make your wife better? What have
you endured for your wife? Love means you suffer for your wife until God change
her to become better.
5. Serve your wife
Serve your wife by taking care of her, nourishing, giving
and spending time with her. Be patient with her and calm her fear. Don’t forget
to give gifts to her at birthday and intercede for her.
6. Sanctify your wife (John 13:13).
Use words, comments and action to sanctify her, make her to
become better and best. Be her lifter spiritually, educationally, and mentally
‘Release her to be a blessing to the world not only for your family.
Conclusively, when you love your wife as mentioned above she
will respond to your love. You can tame, mould, sharpen and transform your wife
into what you want her to be by your patient love and healthy husband skills.
Be a happy husbanding and godly father!.
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