6 Keys To a Successful Marriage/Christian youth

Pastor Claudius Olanrewaju

 

Keys To a Successful Marriage/Christian youth

Marriage choice for christian youth;

Marriage is the oldest institution of human race. Marriage is God’s idea not or human philosophy that facilitate it. Marriage is the older than religion or human government. Frankly speaking, God’s ultimate intention for marriage is always good and positive. Many eligible bachelors and spinsters today have good jobs, live in beautiful and comfortable houses, with good degrees, in fact, they are well –to-do. Behold they fail woefully in marriage due to their wrong choices of life partners in marriage. No wonder George Turett said, ‘’To know the will of God is the greatest knowledge, to do the will of God is the greatest achievement’’ for one to chose the right marriage partner there are some principles that should be properly followed for one not to live a regrettable life in marriage.

Heb. 13:4, Genesis 2:18, Exo. 4:9-10, Prov. 18:22, Ecc. 3:1-2, Prov. 15:15-18 I.

DEFINITION OF TERMS

Choose; to select one from thing rather than another Partner; either member of a married or non-married couple Right- (adj) correct, true, just or good; appropriate that fit a particular situational event; like marriage.

PURPOSES OF MARRIAGE

Abuses are inevitable when the purpose is not understood. Misunderstood of purpose of marriage has caused many youth to make a wrong choice of partner for marriage.

1. To banish loneliness (gen. 2:18) ‘’Loneliness’’ says Richard l. stratus, is incompleteness, lack of personal companion, lack of opportunity to share your felling with someone who understands-some one with whom you can enjoy a mutual commitment and trust

2. To meet sexual needs (I cor. 7:9) Every normal person in live has a sexual drive. God established marriage to meet man’s sexual needs and prevent the social disorders and tragedies that sexual indiscipline can cause.

3. For procreation (gen. 1:27-28) Adam and Eve were created not to born. God use marriage for procreation through man and woman.

WHY YOU SHOULD NOT BE IN HASTE

Waiting is the school of winners. You need to wait for genuine clearance. Countless of marriages without convincing testimonies. Impatience is a sign of immaturity. Hasty leads to regret. Waiting will enable you to know the strength and weakness of your partner Note: Thought it is not easy to pass through the University of Patience, but it is better to be patience than to latter be in pains

HOW TO KNOW GOD’S CHOICE FOR ME TO MARRY.

(1.) By the word of God- Psalms 119, 105, Matt.22:29 The word of God is the only directional peg that points to the right direction, care fully study of word will help you to have right life partners.

(2.) By direct revelation:- through the following media;
(a) Dream: Job 33:14-30
(b) Vision:- Acts 9:10-6
(c) Angelic visitation
(d) Prophesy Acts 11:28
(e) Audible voice 1sam 9:15

(3) Inner voice john 10:3-5
(4) Guidance of spirit- filled and wise counselor Heb.13:7,Prov20:18
(5) The leading of the Holy Spirit John 14:26
(6) Love and real prayers.

NOTE: Out of above guidance word of God is best and more reliable to choice right life partner

23 SETS OF PEOPLE YOU SHOULD NOT MARRY.

(1) Don’t marry an unbeliever 1 Cor. 12:13
(2) Don’t marry a stranger James 4:18
(3) Don’t marry someone you don’t love
(4) Don’t marry someone you cannot trust
(5) Don’t marry someone you cannot be proud of
(6) Don’t marry someone you cannot agree with
(7) Don’t marry someone you cannot respect
(8) He / She that has television but no vision
(9) He / She that has car but no carrier
(10) Man / Lady that causes fear in you
(11) Man/Lady that can’t honor your virginity
(12) He / She that can’t add to you
(13) A chameleonic man/lady
(14) He / She that can’t keep his/her secret with you
(15) He / She who cannot forgive/forget your past
(16) He / She that dictatorship after prosperity
(17) Material money oriented
(18) He / she who is too expensive
(19) He / she can't control his / her temper
(20) He / she who is too lazy
(21) He / she without integrity
(22) He / she who parents don't like you
(23) He / she with rigid philosophy

CONCLUSION

If the principles of scriptures on marriage are meticulously followed, you shall find the bone of your bones and you won‘t live to regret. But if you break those principles it shall definitely break your joy of marriage. NOTE: Life is not bed of roses, you need to properly prepare through the grace of God to face the challenges of life. My words of caution for youth of this generation are: Have a goal, believe in your purposes, and put hard work and fear of God at the centre of your heart. By doing these you shall be a symbol of testimonies to yourself, your family, your church and the nation at large. It is not a sin to born or start small but terrible and unpardonable sin to end small. See you at the top.